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What Type of Leader Are You?

When you hear the word “leader,” who comes to mind? Joan of Arc . . . George Washington . . . Harriet Tubman . . . the Dalai Lama? What about you? When you think about the qualities that effective leaders possess, you’ll likely consider some of the following attributes: honesty, integrity, and accountability; the […]

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The Many Faces of the Saboteur

The following grid was created using information presented in Shirzad Chamine’s Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential and How You Can Achieve Yours. Paid Advertisement

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Caveats to the Buddy System and How to Overcome Them

A client of mine joined an online accountability group for added support as she worked toward her goals. Each week, members of the group called in to share their successes and discuss any obstacles that they were in the process of overcoming. Everything was going well, until, slowly but surely, one member after another stopped […]

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Proteus: The Old Man of the Sea *

When Poseidon became the god of the sea, he let Oceanus, one of the old sea-gods, and all his many children have part under him in ruling the great ocean and the other waters of the earth. The most interesting of all the children of Oceanus was his son Proteus, whose duty it was to […]

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“I Have Met the Enemy and It is Me”

Well, not you in your entirety, but rather an aspect of yourself. And, while it’s often characterized as an enemy, it can also be conceptualized as a friend, albeit a misguided friend at times. We often encounter this aspect of ourselves when we attempt to make meaningful changes in our lives, or even think about […]

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Dr. Bollé’s Saboteurs

Following is a list of my saboteurs, those cunning characters whose raison d’être is my safety.  Perhaps you will recognize some of these saboteurs as your own. For a detailed discussion of “the saboteurs,” please see my article, entitled “I Have Met the Enemy and It Is Me.” Reasoner – comes up with seemingly plausible […]

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The Story of Ivan

This story concerns a man named Ivan who lived in Moscow and was married and had a successful business. One day, in middle life, he began to be haunted by a devil. The devil had hooves and horns and all the usual appurtenances, but no one could see or hear him except Ivan. The devil […]

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SMART, SMARTER, or SMARTEST: What Kind of Goals Would You Like to Achieve?

When it comes to setting goals, chances are you’ve heard about the importance of setting goals that are SMART, that is: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. If you’re able to answer each of the following questions in the affirmative, you’ll know you’ve set a goal that’s SMART:  Specific – Does your goal use action […]

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Saying “Yes” and Saying “No”

Whether you conceptualize your ideal life as integrated—as I do—or balanced, it’s important to keep in mind that, on any given day, each of us has 24 hours in our metaphorical spending account. The good news is, each and every one of us on planet Earth gets 24 hours a day; Mother Nature and Father […]

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How to Live an Integrated Life

If the thought of working with a Co-Active Coach® conjures up images of being goaded into action, you’re not alone. While it’s true that there often is a good deal of action that takes place within the context of coaching, sometimes that action consists of designing and building a life that integrates “doing” and “being.” […]